Question: My husband and I are going through a divorce. We have two kids. I’m really worried that they are going to act up, and I won’t know what to do. What should I expect. I want to be ready for the warning signs so I can get them help if they need it. But I don’t want to jump the gun and give them some idea that they have to have problems if they are able to get through it ok.

Anne Fenton, MD: Your question is a good one. The larger issue you pose is at what point should anyone seek treatment. I define symptoms as any behavioral changes which interfere with normal functioning. In the case of children, it is often difficult to tell when they are having real behavioral issues, and when they are simply going through a stage in normal development. If you are uncertain, feel free to consult a child psychiatrist. If you would rather spare your children an unnecessary evaluation, interview the psychiatrist first and ask your questions. The psychiatrist can help you identify possible issues, as well as make recommendations based on your account of the situation. The psychiatrist may advise you to hold off on an evaluation, or see the children directly. Most treaters are experienced enough to offer a comfortable and non-threatening environment to children and parents.